Check out this vid...
https://youtu.be/zZ8H17B5lyE
And this one starting around the 3 min mark. Looks as if the teardop tab should be forward of the main body of the CDL.
https://youtu.be/1QFS5fO3bCc
Okay nice videos. In the first one however I can clearly see that the tab is aft of the spigot shaft and can also clearly see that rotating the dif lock mechanism clockwise engages it. So if the tab were aft you'd have to move the lever to the right to lock it.
I also see that I shouldn't have to drive to get the dif lock light to come on since it's just a mechanical link with the shaft member. So I'm going to need to take a closer look at mine and see just exactly what's going on. I guess I'll pull the cap off and maybe the switch