Aaron, I am not trying to bash you or hint that you are less than a good person. I understand your reasoning and can't fault you for what you have done. All I wanted before sending you money was a picture of the exhaust so I could see you really do have it, and its condition (with a handwritten note to prove it isn't a stock photo.) You did not explain why you didn't want to remove the exhaust in your messages other than that you couldn't do it one weekend due to the weather. My last message was asking you what your timeframes were after explaining I must have the new muffler by this weekend so my 18 hours of driving at the end of this next week wouldn't be hell on wheels. You said you would take it off last weekend, and get back with me. You did not do so, and I waited until friday to ask if anyone else has a muffler, but if you want to remove it I am more than willing to pay.
I don't think anyone here should believe paypal provides any buyer protection whatsoever, and if they do they should really check the reviews. They are simply an easy way to transfer money from one person to another and nothing more. If I tell them I didn't get the product I paid for, they will ask you if you sent it. If you say yes, I am out of the money. They don't care nor will they try to figure out the real story. If the muffler/resonator are not in good condition, they don't care. Only thing you can do then is reverse the charge on your credit card, if it was used, but you run the risk of having paypal freeze all accounts they know about and take you to court. It has happened plenty of times and I am not about to try to go through that fun. In their minds they are just the money transfer agent, and all of the sales issues are between buyer and seller.
If you told me that was the reason, not that the weather was stopping you, I would have tried to work out a deal. I am still willing to do so but lets not discuss that here online.
I'm going to chalk all of this up to miscommunications on both our parts. Lets get this done tomorrow morning and come back smiling telling everyone how happy we both are!