Weddings on Holidays

[Slappy]

We have been invited to her nephew's wedding, which is on the 4th of July. I immediately said, "I'm not going" which became a large cage match fight in the middle of the restaurant. To top it off, she's been asked to be a bridesmaid, which further complicates things. It's a huge WTF for me when anybody plans weddings on a holiday.

Pretty much out of principle, I will not go. But it isn't easy this time under the circumstances, and it could turn into a big deal with the whole family. Not sure if I care.

I've already been accused of avoiding her family's get-togethers, whether it be barbecues, thanksgiving, x-mas... Usually because of my work. I actually enjoy their company.

Traditionally, my friend throws a huge 4th of July party at his house every year. There's that, too.

I used to feel the same way. Miss a party for a wedding or some other function? No way!
But! As the years roll on, that 4th of July party will still be there. What's one year for the sake of a happy relationship? It's all about compromise, if you're not willing to do that, then dump her and move on. If she's a keeper, then make a sacrifice and just remember it's a two way street. How many times does she go camping with you?

 

[Welcome to Hell A]

Sounds like a big stink to me.

Calm down, my dear. It was a joke. Not really a cage match fight.

yes, but the family thinks otherwise, based on your history of no-shows, regardless of the reasoning. See below.

It doesn't matter if I go to the wedding or not. I will still always be labeled as the invisible guy, that's just the way it works.

Look, you asked for other peoples opinions on this matter, and I gave you mine. Don't get all sore because I called it like I personally saw it.

Hehe, I wasn't sore at all, but I did think it humorous that you were the only one to take me to task on this in the manner you did. Opinion are good, that's what I asked for, and I thank you for offering yours. :bigok:

What are you going to do on the 4th otherwise are you going to go a beertastic partay with scantily clad women, straw hats and fireworks galore?

YES, LOL. We may get to do both, actually. She found out the wedding is at 3pm.

You think you got it bad? I'm in my best friends wedding in September. Guess who doesn't get to lead trails at the LRNR in Moab this year??? At least it's on the Outerbanks. I'm going out there early and have booked an offshore charter for a full day of fishing Tuna, dolphin, and possibly marlin or sailfish. So, not a total loss.

You're right, that sounds rough. Oh wait, you're going to be on a beach, and fishing. The wedding is going to be in Santa Maria, otherwise known as Santa Diarrhea (they call it that). There is absolutely, positively, nothing to do in Santa Maria as a side trip.


I should have said that I couldn't adamantly say no about it, you know things don't work that way in a relationship. No, I'm not that selfish, and no we wouldn't break up over it. This mountain = a molehill. I'll probably end up going to the wedding, and hide the fact that I would rather not be there. You can put away the pistoliers.

I used to feel the same way. Miss a party for a wedding or some other function? No way!
But! As the years roll on, that 4th of July party will still be there. What's one year for the sake of a happy relationship? It's all about compromise, if you're not willing to do that, then dump her and move on. If she's a keeper, then make a sacrifice and just remember it's a two way street. How many times does she go camping with you?

Once every year or two? We went to Big Sur last year. Can't remember the time before that. That's upsetting, now that I think about it. I'll probably play ball anyway.


Thanks for the responses. :bigok:

 

[Roverlady]

We got married the Saturday of Memorial Day weekend. It worked out well for friends and family because most had to travel a great distance.

In some ways, I have more trouble with weddings that aren't scheduled for holiday weekends because I have to take off work time and don't feel as relaxed about being away!

 

[DiscoJen]

I wouldn't personally schedule a wedding on a holiday. I respect that my friends and family may have other plans or their own traditions that they follow as many people do have standing plans every year for certain holidays. I wouldn't want them to have to make a hard decision and choose, and I wouldn't want to feel like there was under breath mumbling going on from disgruntled attendees who made the choice to cancel their other plans.

On the other hand, if I were invited to a holiday wedding I would probably go. Of couse, I would be one of those people mumbling under my breath about wanting to be somwhere else...but yeah, I would give up a "party" at a friends house to keep the peace.

 

[Blue]

wedding on a holiday? great, thanks for the mandatory trip to your town on a date not of my choosing.

 

[cptyarderho]

We got married on New Year's Eve, no complaints. Open bar until 2am did not hurt though.

 

[Captainruss]

We got married on a Tuesday during a Nor'easter at the Justice of the Peace office at City Hall in Boston on my birthday with nobody else but us and the JoP. We didn't impact anybody else, didn't make anybody dress up or make travel arrangements, didn't need anyone to buy us any gifts, didn't pay for a reception, cake or any of that other crap. It took 5 minutes to get the damn thing over with and it was awesome.

Now on to the topic at hand: my beautiful bride happens to be a florist. Not a god damned holiday goes by where she doesn't need to be in early and work late because some cheeky bastard thought it would be cute to get married on a holiday. And it is not just one, it can be up to eight weddings her shop has booked.

You cannot imagine the resources, organic and human, that are required to get that many weddings out the door. There is five days worth of prep work. 12-16 hour, or more, days easy for each work day leading up to one of these big holiday weddings.

Now, we don't mind the overtime $$$ and all but, jeezus, it is hard enough to get a non-holiday Saturday off because of weddings, so the thought that we could ever go somewhere for a long holiday weekend for ourselves or to visit friends or family together is absolutely out of the question.

Forget about just asking for a normal Saturday off to go wheelin' for her, it ain't happening. If she wants to go we have to plan on a Sunday since it is the only day off we share. The last time she was able to bust a weekend off, besides a carefully planned vacation around other peoples' weddings, was back in February for Winter Romp. And that was because there were only two weddings that day and there was enough coverage.

So go ahead, invite either one of us to a wedding for anytime, I dare ya'. I don't care who it is, we aren't going. The only exception would be for her sister, but she would likely get enlisted to do the flowers for her anyways so it wouldn't be much different as if she was working. For myself, nope. I just don't go to weddings.

 

[Nomar]

I thought this thread was about welding on Holidays.
I have no problem with it, as long as I've got a full tank of shielding gas.

 

[Blue]

We got married on a Tuesday during a Nor'easter at the Justice of the Peace office at City Hall in Boston on my birthday with nobody else but us and the JoP. We didn't impact anybody else, didn't make anybody dress up or make travel arrangements, didn't need anyone to buy us any gifts, didn't pay for a reception, cake or any of that other crap. It took 5 minutes to get the damn thing over with and it was awesome.

Now on to the topic at hand: my beautiful bride happens to be a florist. Not a god damned holiday goes by where she doesn't need to be in early and work late because some cheeky bastard thought it would be cute to get married on a holiday. And it is not just one, it can be up to eight weddings her shop has booked.

You cannot imagine the resources, organic and human, that are required to get that many weddings out the door. There is five days worth of prep work. 12-16 hour, or more, days easy for each work day leading up to one of these big holiday weddings.

Now, we don't mind the overtime $$$ and all but, jeezus, it is hard enough to get a non-holiday Saturday off because of weddings, so the thought that we could ever go somewhere for a long holiday weekend for ourselves or to visit friends or family together is absolutely out of the question.

Forget about just asking for a normal Saturday off to go wheelin' for her, it ain't happening. If she wants to go we have to plan on a Sunday since it is the only day off we share. The last time she was able to bust a weekend off, besides a carefully planned vacation around other peoples' weddings, was back in February for Winter Romp. And that was because there were only two weddings that day and there was enough coverage.

So go ahead, invite either one of us to a wedding for anytime, I dare ya'. I don't care who it is, we aren't going. The only exception would be for her sister, but she would likely get enlisted to do the flowers for her anyways so it wouldn't be much different as if she was working. For myself, nope. I just don't go to weddings.

Don't worry, as soon as Obama is elected your wife can just quit her job and Obama will take care of her.

 

[I HATE PONIES]

I thought this thread was about welding on Holidays.
I have no problem with it, as long as I've got a full tank of shielding gas.

Damn it does suck to run out of shielding gas on a holiday.:banghead: