You don't know if you don't ask.
Directly compare your methods to find the difference. You won't waste anyone's time by sitting down with the guy. He wants you to be happy. He has a tough job, and he is definitely out to get money from you, but his game is the end result of all that financing.
That's why most of the time the negotiations revolve around getting the monthly payments where you want them.
They need to make money, so the idea of walking in and stiffing the dealer on the sticker price was created. I love it when people walk out thinking they screwed the dealer.
It's hard to make money selling cars. That's why they like trade-ins. That's their own little game that they can control. Service helps as well, but the actual new car is often not worth much to them without financing.
Don't hate.
They need those sharks, otherwise, it wouldn't be worth having a dealership. The last place they want you to feel stiffed is on those payments. Odds are, you either got something wrong or just don't understand something. He could have made a mistake as well, or there could have been a lack of communication.
Compare notes. The guy just wants to sell a car, and he wants you to walk out with a smile on your face, even if he is forced to look at you as a target. After all, that's how you look at him.
Cheers,
Kennith